What the research actually shows.
The Acoustic Group at Luleå University of Technology measured rain noise on different roofing materials over solid decking and insulation. The results were unambiguous:
Six decibels falls just above the threshold most humans can detect — and on a roof with proper underlayment and attic insulation, that already-small difference becomes effectively zero. The sound your ears reach in the bedroom is shaped by what’s between the panel and your ceiling, not by the panel itself.
The barn experience is what people remember. Open rafters, no insulation, no underlayment. Of course it’s loud. Your house has none of those problems.